Balance Is Hard

I have always had horrible balance. Even with both feet planted I manage to lose my balance quite frequently. Like full on, “I’ve fallen over and I can’t get up” lose my balance. I am also the person who regularly trips up the stairs, but that is an analogy for a different blog post.

In my favorite workout program from Beachbody called Core De Force, we do what is called the balancing repeating sidekick. It is as horrible as it sounds and I fall over multiple times in each 1 minute rep of it. It requires tons of focus to keep my foot planted, while the other lifts, pushes, pulls back in, and then lowers before repeating it again. (There is one that is even worse where you lean down and touch your foot that is planted before standing up and kicking the other foot out in front. I will never let anyone see me doing this one.) The coach encourages me to “engage your core” and “find something that isn’t moving and focus on that”.

The other day, as I was doing this work out (struggling to balance), I thought about how these same strategies would really help me balance my life in general.

I think that I am the same way with balancing life things as I am with my physicality. I tend to fall over, when I should be able to keep myself steady. When I lose my focus and stop engaging my core.

Those two pieces of advice that the coaches on this workout say over and over are helpful. They work, but the require me to apply them and not give up when I tip over.

  • Engage your core. When life is busy and new things have been thrown into the mix that knock us off balance, we need to engage our core. What does that look like?
    • It looks like letting the people we trust be there for us and help us in whatever ways they can. Reaching out in vulnerability and need. Core people don’t just happen over night, they have been built and gained over time – just like our physical core strength. They know you, and will help you balance and thrive when you engage them.
      • Just a note here: our social media followings are not our core people. We can’t depend on them to help us engage our core and find balance. They are something we are balancing. Not dependable, which is 100% okay, because that’s not what they are meant to be!
      • Another note, your core requires work. To build a strong core you have to invest and give what those core people need to thrive as well. In a sense, we have to be actively engaged in our core to receive the benefits.
    • It looks like tightening up our core values. What is it that you believe in and how can you make sure you are engaging in the power of those ideals, morals, and spiritual practices? What grounds you, and gives you purpose. Tighten and engage in these things.

 

  • Find something steady to focus on. When we are juggling a few too many things, we need to focus on what really matters. What isn’t moving. What does this look like?
    • It looks like prioritizing. Make a list. What needs your attention right now, what needs it soon, and what can wait. It’s so important to do this – and we forget how this simple practice can calm and steady us.
    • It looks like filling up.
      • Pick an album that speaks to your soul or that give you good vibes. Play it on repeat (maybe even while you make that list ^).
      • Read a book that is encouraging to your specific situation and easy to engage in.
    • It looks like self-care. Pause to focus on you. You can’t get it all done if you’re falling apart at the seams.

When we engage and tighten up our core, we are stronger and more able to stand when we are working to balance new things or to balance more effectively in general.

When we focus on what is not moving, what is most important, we are able to maintain the proper form and effectively navigate through our day to day balancing.

This was so practical for me. I love the way something said in a workout video can translate into a helpful and even impactful analogy.

Words. They’re powerful.

I know that every person who reads this post is in the middle of balancing.

Maybe you’re at a pretty confident stage. A familiar pattern has been formed and the things you are balancing have found their rhythm.

Or, maybe you’re in a stage that is all new. You’ve added content to your balancing act that keeps on falling and causing things that were once steady to tip you over.

Either way, we need to tighten and engage our core. Either way, we need to focus on what isn’t moving, what is most important.

Drop a comment with one way you engage your core to help you balance, and one thing you consistently focus on to help keep you steady!

Comments 1

  1. Engaging my core: reaching out to family/friends and allowing myself to lean on them
    Focusing: going for walks, painting my nails, shaving my legs and wearing shorts (summer!)

    This past week of my life has been challenging – lots of loss and feeling disheartened. My life has felt like a game of Jenga – each piece placed on what I thought was a firm foundation before it all comes tumbling down (AKA lots of falling over). In this shaky time, I’ve been reminded of what really matters in life and reminded of how fortunate I am to have an incredible support system around me.

    Thank you for sharing your inner thoughts and encouraging others to find their balance in life. Much love to you and your’s <3

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